One of the most common questions I get asked about Skirt Club, is the big one: “So… what happens at the party?” And truthfully? There’s no one- size-fits-all answer. Sure, we have a general format: the guests arrive and are greeted at the door; a hostess will hand you a glass of something sparkly, and you’ll be shown around the venue. We have cocktail hour – a chance to chat and flirt with other gorgeous women; there’s entertainment, a guest speaker; and then we play games and… well… encourage you to make your own sexy fun.

But what that ‘fun’ can look like, is entirely up to you, darling… so we suggest you set your own intention before you cash your ticket.

There are of course a few thrown-in factors that can influence your evening:

The City
Being a global community, we’ve noticed that things can differ from city to city; different cultures offer different ways of thinking… and the term ‘signature’ applies as much to the community as as it does to the party itself.

The Theme
The night we invite can also inspire a whole detail of behaviour. Expect more edgy confidence at a night like Rock Chic; sensual vibes at Six Sensations; things getting flirty at Let Them Eat Cake; and as for Bad Bunny… well that night is entirely designed for our most badass of babes!

Every party is different – just as every member is different too; and so, what to expect on the night can entirely ride on who walks through the door… but if you’re one of the women joining us, we encourage you to think a little bit about what you’d like to gain from attendance.

Before the Party:
Inspire Your Own Mindset
Before coming to a party, have a think about what you’d like to gain from your evening. Remember that, as with any party, your enjoyment is what you make it. Be prepared to share an open mind and willingness to consider new experiences.

Know Your Own Limits
Be clear on what you don’t want to happen, or what you wouldn’t feel comfortable with. Set your own boundaries before arrival, and practise how to feel confident saying ‘no’ to something you’re less sure off. Be honest with yourself about your level of consent.

Fantasise
Go on, darling, spoil yourself… Lose yourself in a sexual fantasy of your own awakening. If you dream hard enough, you might just surprise yourself with what you’re really wanting to happen. And remember, we offer no limits.

What’s Your Best-Case Scenario?
Consider – what would be the absolute ‘best case’ goal for your evening. Is it simply to kiss a woman passionately for the first time – or to kiss multiple women at once, in spin the bottle? Do you want nothing more than to spend a few hours sat naked in the hot tub, drinking champagne with a gorgeous girl on either side of you? Or are you calling out to get fucked hard over the piano, whilst being watched by everyone?!

Aim as high as feels right for you, but don’t be scared to go a little wild with those thoughts either. Be true to what you want and it’ll be far more likely to happen. But be honest with yourself too, about what will leave you feeling most satisfied by the time you call a taxi. That way you won’t be disappointed.

What Can You Offer?
Don’t only think about what you want to experience for yourself whilst you’re at it... Also consider what the other members might be hoping to happen, and what you’d be willing to ‘assist’ with. Permit yourself to get hot and bothered at the thought of bringing to life someone else’s fantasy… and it might soon become a fantasy of your own on the night as well!

At the Party
Upon Arrival
Take note of what’s on offer at the venue. As your hostesses guide you around the apartment, take a look for quiet corners that draw you in, or particular pieces of furniture that excite your fantasy. Know where you’re aiming to lead yourself astray…

Be an Exhibitionist
If no one else knows your intention – however will it come to life? Share your saucy secret with someone else over a cocktail, and ask them to share theirs too. Vocalising your intention will help it gain fruition – it may create an invitation, some intrigue, and it’ll empower you to go after what you hope to achieve. It’ll also make for a super-hot chat up line if you’re struggling for conversation!

“Setting your intention at the beginning of the event is so important to experiencing this fantasy. You’ve just entered a utopia of gorgeous glamorous women and it’s all there for you! You were brave enough to recognise the desire, you’re brave enough to be in the room, you’re brave enough to get what you want!. That all starts with intention..." (Genevieve LeJeune) 

Leave Your Inhibitions at the Door
Remember, Skirt Club is a judgement free zone, and we also invite no insecurity. Whatever your fantasy, whatever your intention for fulfilment – we encourage you to feel sexy and safe speaking openly in our presence. There is no ‘go to’ level, for acceptance, and no expectation for you to do any more than you feel comfortable with.

If anyone disrespects this, of themselves, or anyone else, they will be asked to leave.

And if it doesn’t happen for you…?
Hey, that’s OK too! We’re all keen to explore, but sometimes it just isn’t your evening. Don’t let that disappoint you. We’ve all had our moments where we just didn’t fancy the person we were talking to; or the girl we really wanted got caught up with someone else… and that’s perfectly reasonable. As your hostesses, we’ll go out of our way to ensure that you have a most fabulous time, whatever your purpose, and whatever your intention.

Talk to us, and we’ll do everything we can to turn your dreams into reality… but if we don’t, then heck, we can top up your glass and have a good old natter in the hot tub instead (who doesn't love a naked hot tub!?) – and of course, there’s always next time!

...and so, darlings, follow your heart and you can follow your fantasy. We'll be here waiting to help you on your path...

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Seren Sins is Skirt Club’s UK Event Manager.  

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