Beatrice’s Story, Vienna
An ex-colleague of mine who I knew was bi told me and my boyfriend about Skirt Club. I was interested...the design and the behind-the scenes story were really intriguing so I signed up finally. A space meant for bisexual or queer women!
I've told friends I know were also sex-positive about being bi, but I’m not telling everyone about it. All my friends know that I am in an open relationship and sex-positive though. I didn’t come out to my family because I don't see the necessity.
I know that my parents and my sister would have no issue with my bisexuality but if my parents couldn’t talk to me about sex, protection and STDs, why should I tell them? I don't see the point, they could figure it out by themselves with all the queer parties I am attending
I think I could totally ‘come out’ but I’m also not talking about my sex life with my boyfriend with colleagues so why should I tell them about it with women? I know that they would ask because some men still don't have a clue how women can have sex together, talking from my experience with guy friends!
My partner and I have a very mature relationship and we feel compassion for the other one when we know they are going to meet someone. Of course there’s a lot of work and communication behind all this.
It didn't just happen overnight or fall into our lap. And since communication is the most important part in a relationship (at least for me) it is always important to ask questions, tell the other person how you feel about something.